Perception is reality ..

The popular saying and corporate mantra that Perception is reality has been hammered into us from ages.. But today I decided to explore this a bit further .. what does this really mean .. what is perception.. perception simply means how another individual forms opinions or ideas about us using the interactions we have had, from seeing some of the things we do and hearing other people’s opinion on us and last but not the least blending them with their own core values and characteristics .. all these together forms one strong image about a person which we then justify by saying “ I know her too well” or “ This is how the person is” or “ She is a loser” etc., etc., so we basically will be reduced to a line or two and the tone of the line will depend on if you have had a positive impact on the person and the person has been able to identify with your ideology or a negative influence if we have challenged their way of thinking and being.

Either ways their idea or opinion about us is NOT really US, neither does it define us, neither does it showcase the entire US as how we behave with another individual will largely depend on what sort of relationship we share with that individual.

People in the close group will gauge us better than someone looking at us from a distance, people in the close group due to constant interaction and sharing of intimate information will have far better clarity of the other than someone who we interact in a more formal or less intimate way .. again even in this case it still is not the entire truth .

So looking little more deeper into this topic , we need to nail down whose reality are we talking about, is it the reality of the person in question or the reality for outside world, what matters the most? What one person feels about himself or herself matters or how someone else things of him/her matters .. For me what I make of myself is far more important than what someone else is making of me  for only I have walked the journey wholly and only I have the full depth of the details of my journey and the purpose for the same so at the end of the day my journey and what I make of it is far more of relevance than what someone else is interpreting my journey to be ..

Perception might be reality to some extent and the extent is determined by how much you really care or give importance to the “image” but at the end of the day when you are shut out from everything and everyone what matters is how much pride and respect you have for yourself .. only that will help gauge the reality of oneself .. its holding the mirror to yourself and being completely naked and true to yourself and then feeling the comfort and solace that you have conducted your life in a way you can feel proud of and can put yourself in a place on contentment and peace.

This is the reality at the end of the day .. it barely matters what someone else is making of us for their perception is simply a reflection of how they see us through their life experiences and there is a vast difference between what is ‘Fact’ and what is “Truth” .

So it’s important that we value our own opinion about us, if we feel we are not good enough or we could do more then that’s what we need to listen to, if we feel we gave everything we have and have acted with integrity and purity of thought then that’s the reality for your soul will never lie to you.. it shows you who you really are and that’s our guiding angel to go through this life journey and only soul or gut as we call it knows the truth and it will guide us in the right way and that is the REALITY of ourselves totally un tampered version of Reality.

SO STAY NETURAL TO OTHERS OPINIONS AND JUDGEMENT (BOTH GOOD & BAD) ABOUT YOU AND LISTEN TO YOUR OWN SOUL TO SEEK THE VALIDATION YOU NEED.

Quote :- “Your perception of me if a reflection of you my reaction to you is an awareness of me”

Few Quotes

Self Confidence is not for the faint hearts !!

Self -worth is not for people who can't be thankful for what they have and know the worth of the same..

People can go any length to be petty n reduce themselves to a nibble just to prove a point. Then please be my guest and gossip and bitch for nothing will ever make an ounce of difference in my life.

My Life rocks and I am thankful for the people in my life and I am blessed with such great set of people around me who refuse to let anyone hurt me and always Love me beyond measure !!

As time goes by we as individuals start to shut down from outside world and look deep within ourselves for purpose and deeper meaning to this life .. rightfully so as we progress through life and having the varied and rich experiences we have we tend to realize what’s important and what’s not, what frivolous and what’s not.. It all gets clear, crystal clear !

This point in life is beautiful simply because life has become much more clearer in terms of what you are looking for, what is the core purpose of one’s existence and what is truly valued and what’s not.

I call this phase of life .. Liberation !! For you are liberated from the temptation to be attached to someone, temptation to own anyone, temptation to go after material stuff, temptation to seek validation from others or temptation to just fake it all just to make ourselves look good in other eyes.. once we are liberated from these temptations then we feel free. We feel empowered, we feel light for there is no baggage or burden we carry ..

This liberation and freedom from these baggage’s offer lot of time, space and energy to go after things that makes oneself feel alive, happy and fulfilled, its de cluttering of sorts .. its space in your mind when you feel the ideas are crisp, the path is clear and the goal or purpose visible.

No amount of insinuation or insult from others can shake you for we understand ourselves very well and nothing can deter the self-worth and self-esteem we carry around.. no sinusoidal fluttering of mind and no feeling of helplessness for everything we do or experience is an outcome of our own choices so the consequences needs to be owned by us too.. hence the sense of ownership and responsibility to live through this life with utmost respect for life itself and savoring everything this life has to offer in its bare form.. when you lose the mask and see life as life itself then it becomes more beautiful.

I am not going to kill my soul by judging what’s right and wrong but look at life as a quest for deeper and richer experiences and pave way to paths not explored and dare to bear my dream and dig my way through territories I have never been..

The same goes for Love .. being Loving and humble to all is the value and legacy I carry from my father, it was  indeed a long journey to reach a place where in Love you expect nothing not even Love in return .. Again this point for me is freedom of sorts for its frees up your mind and heart to just Love without any reason or expectations .. Love does not become about conquering someone, or being possessive or owning or dominating or demanding or even begging .. it becomes about giving, nurturing, wellbeing of the loved one .. This offers true power to Love itself and this will help us and the person we love with enough space to explore our lives in our own way and have our own stories or experiences without being bound by the need to do everything together or to have the same experience just because we are married or bonded by Love or bonded for various other reasons .. It’s important to have that individual life experience and own stories, for, our LIFE is truly ours  and everyone else and everything else is just sharing a part of this experience but they can NEVER own us in its entirety.

LIVE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE AND MAKE YOUR OWN STORY AND PAVE YOUR OWN PATH !