Be True to yourself and your beliefs and cut the hypocritical crap..

How often do we come across people in our daily life who are not true to their beliefs and portrait a totally different image to what they really are.. why is it so hard for individuals to be true to themselves and what they believe ?

Hypocrites are that way simply because they don’t believe in themselves, they can sway anyway easily depending on which way the wind blows, they want to project a image which is not true to their core beliefs, they either want to impress their family, their friends or just try to fit in because they don’t have the bone to stand up for what they believe.

These kind of people are hard to trust as they can be easily influenced into doing anything and its apt to use  a quote by Sigmund Freud   “He does not believe who does not live according to his belief.”

I have come across such people umpteen times who contradict his or her stated beliefs or feelings and every time I am wonderstruck how they can be that way, they profess a certain set of beliefs to the world and when they are in their cocoon and away from the watch of the world their true selves reveal and what’s worst is they try hard not to bring the true self so much so that they somehow start lying to themselves and they start to believe that’s the truth.

If you like doing something then you like it, there are no two ways to it and if you are matured enough and if the behavior is done in a rationale manner and not hurting anyone then what’s the harm in telling your loved ones about it, is it fear of being judged or fear of losing the false image you are portraying in front of them ? And by doing this are we being fair to our loved ones with whom I believe we need to have the most integrity, cause these are the core set of people in life who will accept us for what we are and still give us the same amount of Love and respect and in my opinion projecting a false image to them is like insulting the relationship.

Social networking sites these days also boost and harbor hypocritical beliefs, they see their friends do cool things and just to fit in these individuals project a image which is not true, how many of them are truly revealing their true self, how many of them get depressed just because another person is living a life which these individuals really want to lead and probably ARE but don’t come out in the open as they are scared of losing they false image ?

I just cannot stand such individuals and I definitely cannot put my trust in them, this behavior annoys me to the core and I try and keep away from these individual but this is not always possible, what if one of these individuals is your close friends? How do we then deal with the situation ? We can either choose to ignore it or choose to speak to them about it but either way the issue will not be resolved as they are hypocrites in the first place because they are not strong individuals, they don’t think for themselves and their thinking process is deeply intertwined with what the society dictates.

Learn to be true to yourself and your beliefs then people will invest their trust in you, it is not necessary they will agree or like what one believes but at least they will give that individual respect for standing up for one’s own beliefs.  On the flip side I have seen so many strong individuals who stick to their beliefs and are not ashamed to admit and show the world what they are and I truly admire and respect these individuals even though not necessarily agree or like their beliefs.

We cannot change people, but we have a option to keep a distance from such individuals and maintain a amicable relationship but yes I would think hard before I put my trust in such people and also believe what they say.

No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true..

                                                                                NATHANIEL HAWTHORNE, The Scarlet Letter